Been putting in rough 8 hour days. Is beneficially pretty calming.
My goal has been to ask 3 strangers 3 questions everyday. When I am walking I look at people and try to come up with good questions to ask them.
The main thing that happens is you have questions to ask people but are afraid that they are stupid or offensive or will result in the person walking away.
But you just have to ask them anyway.
Today I went to regular coffee shop and sat at the bar area next to a young lady with a laptop. I sat there about 30min without saying anything, then as leaving (with the excuse/safety of my leaving) I commented she is working late. She smiled and said yep (as opposed to being annoyed and angry at me). I asked her what she was doing. Shes a dietician. I asked her how long that takes as in school. She said one year after undergrad. So, I asked one stranger two questions today. Thats better than asking no strangers no questions. Other questions i suppose I mightve asked the dietician are: whyd you get in to that?, do you eat well?, how long you been in the city?, how old are you?. I kind of disqualified myself since I weigh 120lbs and she is a normal size adult female and I feel I am physically repulsive/ out of the league of women like that. (most women).
One other comment of note to make myself feel like I am a good person: also on coffee shop saw bicycle girl from the other day. I have seen her three times now. I said hello to her. I considered sitting with her at her empty table but after I said hello her response seemed very rejecting of me. So I kept walking. I think I mightve misinterpreted her response. I dont think it was necessarily rejecting. Soon after this episode she left in what seemed like a disappointment. It made me think maybe she was disappointed I didnt talk to her. Just dont know.
Oh well. Good job and keep increasing questions asked!
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I started this blog a year ago during summertime living alone in a city. The idea of using the blog as motivation and protection in exposing myself to the uncertainties of the social atmosphere of strangers was the starting reason for the blog. I slacked off and finished my last year of school and now we are back. The idea is to live; to overcome social anxiety and low self-esteem and insecurities and introversion and to just try. To crash and burn. And of course to chronicle it all right here. The way it will work is before going out to local bars alone around 9 or 10 I will start a post with a 'pre' write describing my feelings and motivations. Then I will do a post write upon return. Enjoy and be inspired.
[Old About:] My goal is to cold approach one woman per day for the rest of the summer. By 'cold approach' I mean to start a conversation in a social public place (like a bar, park, book store) in a nonchalant and friendly manner. Although sex is undeniable as a factor, the overall purpose is accelerated personal growth. At the end of the summer I will have approached 60+ women, have 60+ stories to tell (which will all be chronicled right here) and hopefully will be the wiser for it. I am committed to making an update every day in this blog, cold approach or not. Go to the first post for more information.
[Old About:] My goal is to cold approach one woman per day for the rest of the summer. By 'cold approach' I mean to start a conversation in a social public place (like a bar, park, book store) in a nonchalant and friendly manner. Although sex is undeniable as a factor, the overall purpose is accelerated personal growth. At the end of the summer I will have approached 60+ women, have 60+ stories to tell (which will all be chronicled right here) and hopefully will be the wiser for it. I am committed to making an update every day in this blog, cold approach or not. Go to the first post for more information.
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