Excuses

Before talking to a person it always seems safer if you have an excuse; like you are compelled to talk to them not because you want to but because of circumstance.

I mean in reality we are talking to pretty much anybody in order to develop social comfortableness and overcome social anxiety.

I'm sure I wouldn't mind somebody talking to me for that reason, but I would much prefer somebody talking to me because they thought I was attractive or interesting.

However it feels very risky to say "hi I wanted to talk to you because you are attractive". Too scary to do, especially when I can barely walk in a bar alone.

So anyway I thought of a I think a pretty good excuse to hold personally, although still awkward to disclose I feel. Three facts about three strangers. Its a goal to keep. And has measurable results. I will come back here and post my three facts about three strangers nightly. And they have to be facts that are not visible; no cheating like "Person X was wearing a black shirt".

I guess this is more a motivation than an excuse. But if I am focused on fact gathering it may help motivate overcoming the initial anxiety, and structure the interaction.